When S*ex Gets in the Way Continued!

When you have sex or exchange sexual energy with anyone, who is not your soul mate in anyway shape or form, like friends with benefits and one night stands,  it...

Takes you out of alignment with you and is an addictive behavior that reinforces your current relationship programming. While casual sex today may socially acceptable, like drinking, when you are called to be with your soul mate, and you participate in sexual energy exchange with someone else, it hurts you at your soul level, is out of alignment with what you want, and robs you of your soul mate.

This is true for most women, even those who say this is what they want.  Because when it gets right down to it, the statement is a defense mechanism of trying to fit in with the current social programming. Most women are not wired for casual sex, even those who think that they are eventually discover that casual feels empty and hollow and they long for something deeper and more connected.

If you’re still “on the drugs” you will never be healthy regardless of other steps you may take. Like a smoker who works out, you can look really fit, and still be dying inside.  

Deflates your self-esteem and confidence because subconsciously you know you’re settling for less than you want. It gives you fodder to feed your negative voice of self-judgment and self flagellation, where you beat yourself up in your thoughts and words, feel badly about yourself and feel rejected even though there was no context for anything else to happen. You put yourself in a position kidding yourself and then blaming yourself when it doesn’t work out.  Your foray into casual sex inevitably becomes a never ending cycle. 

Lowers your vibration:  As a human being you are pure energy and as such you vibrate a specific frequency. The level is based on your thoughts, emotions and connection to spirit.  When you engage in any activity, especially casual sex, which is out of alignment with who you really are and what you want, you lower your vibratory level.  A soul mate relationship is a higher vibration relationship than any you have been in previously.  

Your soul mate won’t be attracted to you when your behavior is out of alignment with what you want. Unless you see your soul mate relationship as a situation where you can run around and sleep with whoever you want, you will not attract your soul mate while you engage in that behavior.

Takes up space, No room: Casual sex literally makes you unavailable by filling up your relationship energy space that would be taken by your soul mate were he in your life. When your energy space is filled up with sexual energy that focused on someone else, you literally have no room for your soul mate and it keeps you involved with “Mr. Right Now”.  Granted, you may have a physical attraction so strong that you feel like you can’t break it off but you know he’s not “the one” so what do you do now?  You get out of the relationship regardless of how difficult it may be.

When you have no room for your soul mate, it will be a very long journey and you take the risk reaching the end of your time on the planet with never having met him.  Do you want to have that regret at the end of your life? 

Stunts Intimacy: True intimacy comes from a deep connection that is beyond sex.  With casual sex, the sex in and of itself causes the illusion of intimacy because when you are without clothes you feel vulnerable and exposed.  The truth is, only your ego is vulnerable and exposed and then your emotions kick in without being connected to your heart creating a spiraling chain of events that leaves your spiritual connection completely out of the picture.

In the case of one night stands or having sex to soon after meeting him, the chemistry starts working in overdrive and masks whether there’s any real compatibility or not. It makes the physical chemistry a driving force which propels the relationship forward and adds intensity, but leaves little to no room to develop true intimacy or love.  The result, all too often, is discovering he was the wrong guy, but staying in the relationship anyway.   Again, this derails you from your true path of  to meet your soul mate because it keeps you from developing the intimacy within you that will open you to your soul mate.

Now, if you are engaged in casual s*ex in anyway, step away from the judgment, acknowledge where you are and simply let go. Move into being your true self and true love will find you.

Victoria has been a confidant, guide and mentor to friends, family and colleagues for over 20 years and a Life & Business coach for more than 8 of those years. Regardless of the reason her clients started to work with her, the focus of their work together always turned towards her clients relationships, most often their spouse, or lack there of, and children.

Over 16 years ago, she was a single heart-centered professional and mom of two teenage girls, very tired of the dating game and ready for a life with her Soul Mate, the person she could spend the rest of her life with. A friend shared a simple common tool with her and from there she developed a process by which she found her Soul Mate. She met her husband Cris within 6 weeks of completing the process and less than 5 months later they were together and have been ever since. That was 14 years ago.

Since then, each individual she has worked closely with to find their Soul Mate has also found the Love of Their Life in less than 6 months after completing the process.

She believes that if you have the desire for True Love, your Soul Mate, the Love of Your Life, isn't far away.

To learn more, please visit http://www.manifestinglovenow.com